I’ve read so many things lately about unlikable characters — girls, always girls. These characters are unlikable as a criticism from readers. So many of these characters cast as unlikable are that way because they want and ache and need and GO AFTER those things, be it power or romance or success or anything, really. 

It just got me thinking about how much we focus on boys and showing boys how to be and how we don’t talk to and with girls about how dynamic and complex they can be, too. Because I bet if we did, we would have far fewer discussions about the likability factor and far more about the complexities and challenges of being a girl. 

I want girls to know it’s okay to be who they are, rather than be some version of themselves that’s easier for people to like.